Weekly Share–April 13, 2018

Margi DehlinHealth & Wellness, Minimalism, Parenting, Relationships, Spirituality, Weekly Share10 Comments

Congratulations on making it to Friday. Do you have something special planned for the weekend? Or are you happy to put on some comfy clothes and relax a bit? I have been so happy to see blooming things on my runs lately. Have you noticed the blossoms and flowers? I am feeling a bit of a “spring” in my step these days. Wow. Did you notice what I did there?

Let’s get on with the share part, shall we?

For Your Relationships

During my Calm meditation today, Tamara (I call her by her first name cause it makes me feel like we are friends. See that?) ended the day’s meditation with a thought about kind communication. It works for so many scenarios! I am sure many of you have heard it. But aren’t reminders a lovely thing? We have so much to remember! So, straight from Rumi . When you want to share a thought/idea/experience/suggestion–you simply consider–

  1. Is it true?
  2. Is it necessary?
  3. Is it kind?

Now, I know some people have taken this to mean that if the thing you want to share isn’t one of those points, you just don’t say anything. And I do think sometimes, that may be a good call. But I also think that these questions guide us to refine how we communicate the thought so we are less apt to do harm to those around us. We may adjust how we communicate based on what point is lacking. And I might suggest that if in fact, your thought or suggestion may not be true or necessary–further self-exploration may be a good idea.  Thoughts on this?

For Your Taste Buds

Ahem! I love guacamole. Yes, it would be best if I made my own. And I do– sometimes– as the weather gets warmer. But for now, Sabra guacamole is doing me straight. Avocado is good for both your heart and brain. The list of ingredients is pretty darn clean too. Beautiful! Pass me the chips and guacamole. I am ready.

For Your Soul

Just watch this Ted Talk. Andrew Solomon shows how our worst moments make us who we are. So beautiful.

For Your Life

If you love the idea of living simply but just can’t seem to make it happen, you may want to check out the new book by Courtney Carver called Soulful Simplicity. I love Courtney’s approach to minimalism as it is so honoring and kind. And the decluttering idea really isn’t as much about what you take away (I mean it is… but that isn’t all it is) but what you actually gain from having less. Like time. Like energy. Like peace of mind. Like a life that feels like you. This book is a wonderful mix of strategy and story. If you have the slightest itch to simplify or slow down a bit, this book just might provide a little bit of motivation!

For Your Entertainment

So, John introduced me to a documentary a couple of weeks ago. He did announce it on Facebook– so fine if you saw it already. But if you want to just live a day completely glued to the couch (and who doesn’t want to do that?) or if you find yourself sick and at home –do I have a show for you! So addictive! Check out Wild Wild Country on Netflix. It is about the cult leader Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, who brought his followers over from India to settle in Oregon’s Wasco County during the 1980s. Think of sexually explorative cult members meeting folks from a Christian small town. Oh dear. Countless times, I found myself asking, “How do I not remember hearing about this?” It is triggering at times– but psychologically, so interesting… and yes, disturbing. You need to have some emotional energy to spare with this one!

For Your Body and Pleasure

These bath bombs are natural–and they smell divine! I used  “Relax” just last night. Heaven!  I am making a point to have them on hand for myself (yes!) but also for my college daughters to enjoy when they come home.

That is all I have for now. I am wishing good things for you this weekend. Feel free to share some things that are making your life sweeter lately. I would love to hear! It is so nice to share.

10 Comments on “Weekly Share–April 13, 2018”

  1. I love your posts, Margi!

    Wild, Wild Country was definitely a roller coaster. You left out the “armed” part of sex cult. (!!!) It’s worth the watch.

    Home-made quac is so much my fave. Avocados go so fast around our house. Besides the obviously delicious chips, I love scooping quac up with carrots or cucumbers or jicama or even celery.

    Thanks for the note about communication. “Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” Great things to consider!

    Thank you.

    1. Joel–Thank you for reading! Yes. Well, I might have mentioned quite a few things with Wild, Wild Country. Right? Where to begin? So wait– you can put guac on foods other than chips?? Are we allowed to do that? Just kidding. Such a great tip. And while I do think to dip vegetables in hummus, that has never translated into me trying vegetables with guac. It is a new day around these parts. I appreciate you writing.

  2. I just made an impulse purchase and ordered those lovely bath bombs! Can’t wait to try them! Your blog is my new guilty pleasure…I look forward to it on Friday mornings and always make a point to try at least a couple of your suggestions. Have a lovely weekend! xoxoxo

  3. Hi Margi, thanks once again for a wonderful blog! I jot down many of your ideas and suggestions.

    Like…..

    Guacamole and chips (nachos?) Yes, please. With some Netflix. What a sweet evening. I usually have salsa but you’ve got me thinking….

    Simplicity threads through much of your writing….so needed. By leaving out what we don’t need or want we make room for what we do. And our days become full of the functional and the beautiful. Many many years ago (20?) I read a book called ‘Timeless Simplicity’ by John Lane. I was impacted by it then…but in the last few years (as there seems to be more and more choices in the world) simplicity has felt like more of an imperative. I want to have in my life people and things that are sweet to gaze upon…I seem to have less and less room for the unnecessary and the ugly. Simplicity is almost akin to freedom. And freedom is where it’s at for me, at the moment. David Whyte “the world is here to be free in”. I like David a lot ❤

    And as for the Rumi quote….how perfect!. Kindness is a superpower. When I deliberately choose kindness – setting aside my ego needs – my life and the other’s life is made bigger. Always. I believe this is one of life’s few absolutes. But it is a lesson I need to choose daily….I find it is a discipline – always being kind isn’t easy but it is always the right thing to do (in my experience)

    Wild Wild Country. Holy moly…I think I watched for about an hour – actually found it a tough watch….I felt really annoyed by the leader. I don’t have much tolerance for religious leaders like that – the manipulation, the ego.(be kind, Fiona, be kind Fiona 😊)…and I really don’t like seeing vulnerable people being pulled in – our need for love and belonging is a natural part of being human and I hate seeing that being exploited. But I will revisit it when I’m in a more gracious frame of mind 😶

    But I did watch a beautiful doco on the life of Maya Angelou (Netflix). Sorry can’t remember the name of it exactly but it was beautiful and uplifting. A phenomenal woman indeed. Her life was such an inspiration….talk about ‘keep going’. She overcame so much.

    I love that you have bath-bombs on the ready for your college aged daughters! It is so lovely to show our love to our daughters with sweet pamper treats like that. If Evie’s been away for a weekend I like to leave a little treat on her pillow when she gets back…usually a face-mask, a chocolate, and her favourite chewing gum. These are just little things….but the little things are the big things and the message is love.

    That’s all for now! Thanks again for your sharing, Margi xox

  4. Fiona–So interested in that Maya Angelou documentary. Did you know our daughter is named after her? I will have to check that out for sure! Yes. I totally understand why WWC would be disturbing in that way as I felt similarly. No need to watch it if it places you in a frame of mind that is agitated. I get it. And life is too short. Oh the treats you leave for Evie are so lovely. You have the best ideas! Thanks for your comments. Always.

    1. Aaaaaahhhh…..your daughter is named after Maya – fancy that! ❤ Just checked, the documentary is called ‘Maya Angelou: And Still I Rise.’ Perfect

  5. Somehow I came upon your blog recently and I’m so glad I did! I love your writing and remembering you. Thank you for sharing your wise words.

    1. How lovely to hear from you, Christy! It has been some years for both of us. I imagine your little ones have grown up a bit–and that a lot of life has happened to you. I am wishing you the best. Comment here whenever you feel comfortable! I would love to learn a bit more about what you are loving and connecting to these days. I appreciate you reading!

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